Saturday 31 January 2015

What's Really Happening In Your Brain When You Multitask

You probably think you have to multitask to accomplish everything on your to-do list and still have a few precious minutes to unwind at the end of the day. But research suggests you're probably not as good at doing things at once as you might think.

In fact, your brain can't consciously focus on more than one thing at a time, according to a new video created by Amit Sood, M.D., professor of medicine at the Mayo Clinic and the author of The Mayo Clinic Guide to Stress-Free Living.

When you think you're multitasking, your brain is actually rapidly toggling between tasks, and because "each toggle depletes energy," multitasking can actually drain you, leading to fewer accomplishments rather than more.

Watch the video above for three tips about when to multitask and how to do it right.

#ChakraTuneUp2015: Intro to the Sahasrara

Discover the signs of blocked energy in the crown chakra and how you may benefit from aligning it.

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Friday 30 January 2015

5 Ways to Be Happier Today

Brrr, its cold outside!


These cold, grey winter days can send even the most positive people into a downward funk. Now that winter is truly upon us, what can you do to keep your spirits up? Here are five ways to be happier TODAY:

1. Start a gratitude list or journal. Concentrating on what you are thankful for in your life is a sure-fire way to feel better about yourself and improve your attitude. A few lines written in a journal is sufficient -- I like to simply jot down something I am grateful for each day on my calendar. Don't have pen and paper handy? That's okay, you can also think about what you are grateful for -- or even state it out loud. Once you get on a roll with this, it's amazing how quickly you can turn complaints into gratefulness.

2. Do something you love. Take a few minutes out of your day to spend time on a project you enjoy, read a few pages of a book you love, or engage in an activity that brings you joy. It is so easy to get caught up in our crazy, busy schedules and "to-do" lists and then, before you know it, you are simply going through the motions of life instead of enjoying it. Taking a little time each day to fully engage in something that you love to do will increase your satisfaction in life and therefore increase your happiness.

3. Connect with others. Call a friend or family member to talk. Or better yet, meet someone you have fun spending time with for coffee or a bite to eat. Connecting with the people we love is a terrific way to feel happier about your life. After all, what's better than reminding yourself of the people who love you and enjoying their company?

4. Exercise. Moving your body will help reduce stress, improve your health and make you feel better about yourself. Exercise is an underused happiness booster. When exercising, your body releases endorphins. I'm sure you have heard runners talk about a "runner's high." When they mention this, they are referencing this release of chemicals -- those endorphins that create a surge of positivity.

5. Help someone else. This tip is a guaranteed way to feel happier. Help out at a shelter, pick out a toy or coat for a child in need, buy a drink for the person in line behind you at the coffee shop or even just offer a compliment and a smile to a harried store clerk. Have doubts that this will work? Give it a try -- it's simple and infectious.

Next time you find yourself feeling down, pick one of these ideas and go for it. Odds are good you'll reap the benefits immediately with an increase in your happiness level regardless of the weather. Want to boost your happiness further? Incorporating some of these practices into your regularly weekly routine is a fantastic way to create an overall happier life.

Former NFL Linebacker Keith Mitchell’s Mindfulness Mission

How former NFL player Keith Mitchell found healing through yoga and mindfulness. Now, he wants to share that experience with others.

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Wednesday 28 January 2015

The Mindset Shift That Transformed My Relationships

For years I was unfulfilled in my relationships. I felt like I was giving more and trying more then what I was receiving in return.

I was drained and tired. I read about every book in the whole "self-help" section in hopes to find the answer as to why love was so difficult for me to find in this world.

I went to a variety of professionals in hopes to find some answer. Though I realized that the work I had done with them only benefitted me temporarily.

There was something else. Something that kept holding me back but I could never figure out what it was exactly.

And then, I moved to South Korea. The move caused me a lot of stress and emotional strain to work through. However, it seemed that the universe felt I had even more that I could manage to deal with, because I found myself in an extremely challenging relationship with a fellow expat.

It was one of those on again off again kind of dating situations. We'd "break up," be back together, fight, "break up," get back together.

This roller coaster of a relationship only lasted only four months. But despite the short duration, I continued to suffer through the aftermath of it months later. I found myself reading book after book after book seeking for answers. I meditated, I kept a dream journal, I did hypnosis. I tried just about anything I could just to find a way to break this self-defeating cycle that I had in my relationships.

I was desperate -- and I had decided that things were going to shift now. Not in a few months or a few years, but now. I did not want to go back to the U.S. without figuring out what I needed to change.

Eventually, I came across one book that seemed to have many insights that resonated with me.

Though there were many insights in that book that I found beneficial, there was one mindset shift that hit me so hard my body shook. It felt as if a train just hit me and I had to take time get re-centered again. I didn't want to accept it. I didn't want to acknowledge it.

Eventually I did choose to accept the idea and make the necessarily mindset shift -- and it has completely changed the way that I approach my relationships and my life.

My major mindset shift was accepting the idea that: The people you are in relationship with are guests in your life.

This isn't an easy pill to swallow -- for anyone. We don't like or want to digest the idea that every single person in our lives will one day be gone -- as well as ourselves. We like to hold on to this belief that what we have will always be with us.

Many times we tend to seek relationships for some kind of security. Emotional security, material security, financial security, physical security, etc.

This desperate desire for security comes out of fear. We're afraid of being alone. We're afraid of needing to support ourselves completely on our own. We're afraid of having to rely solely on ourselves. We're afraid of acknowledging the reality that the only person who is with us from birth until death is ourselves.

Yet, the irony is that if we don't learn how to support and rely on ourselves, if we don't confront our fear and accept that nothing in this world is absolute, then we will only hold ourselves back from true fulfillment and empowerment. We create unnecessary tension in our relationships and, most of all, prevent ourselves from truly enjoying where we are in the present moment.

The key is to realize and accept that no one person is always going to be there with us throughout our lives. Even if we do get married, have 2.5 kids, a secure job, a house and a dog, we are still in every single moment running the risk of that all dissipating in a split second.

It is the risk that we take for living and it is unavoidable. Therefore, by confronting our fears of security head on we then automatically give ourselves the opportunity to truly stand in our power. To truly be who we are meant to be in this world. To truly have what we have always dreamed of having.

We must confront our darkness, before we can truly shine.

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Take action now!

How are you overly striving for security in your relationships? Are you striving for financial security? Emotional security? Material security? Or, ask yourself: What is it that I most fear of disappearing from my life?

For me, I most feared not having material stability. I wanted someone to help direct me somehow. I also feared being alone. I was terrified of needing to rely on myself without anyone to help support me emotionally and materially.

Share your answers in the comments below!

This blog was originally published on JenniferTwardowski.com.

Jennifer is a self and relationship coach and teacher. She helps women worldwide create fulfilling relationships with both themselves and others so they can live happy and joyful lives. Click here for her Free Self and Relationship Healing Meditation.

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Say I Can't and I'll Prove You Wrong

You've heard the word. You probably heard it today. No. Two little letters that have held you back or crushed your spirit. And the word is always spoken at a time when it's the last one you want to be hearing. Living with a "can't" mindset can be debilitating and prevent us from reaching something truly great in our lives. But how do we shake it? How do we use the word "no" as fuel for our creativity and power for overcoming our obstacles? I'm going to tell you how I did it.

Haters Are My Motivators

We all have to deal with those people who tell us "no" or that we "can't" do something. You know the ones, just plain old Debbie Downers. But what if we used their negativity to our advantage? There is nothing more satisfying than proving someone wrong by way of success. There were times I was at my lowest and felt I had no way to go but down. People in my life reinforced this with their judgments or non-belief in my abilities. These were the times I learned some of my biggest lessons about who I was and what I was capable of. As a successful entrepreneur I now have the pleasure of looking back and actually being thankful for those who just didn't get me. Crazy right? You see those people motivated me with every "no" they spoke and every laugh they gave at my ideas. It pushed me to work harder and harder. The feeling I have now and the work I have done is the greatest reward I can give myself and I want you to experience too.

Believe in the Impossible

You are probably working a job you hate or just feel stuck in a life that doesn't fit the plan you had for yourself. I am living proof that you should never stop dreaming and never stop pounding on the closed door in front of you. If you pound long enough someone will answer! It was my sheer determination, persistence and belief in myself that led me to where I am today. Even at my lowest of lows (and trust me they were low) I never lost that voice in the back of my mind that told me I could do whatever it took to be successful on my own terms. That voice is where I found my strength when I needed it and what propelled me to prove the naysayers wrong in every area of my life. I somehow knew that there was no such thing as "impossible" and I stayed hungry for more out of life.

Find a Detour

Were you that kid who could never sit still and certainly wasn't going to follow any rules? That was me -- okay it still is me. What I know now is that my nature is to be curious. I also know that there are people out there who will try to stand in your way of getting an answer. These people are cleverly disguised roadblocks to success. Some of them may even be your "friends." It is often easier to just let them stop you in your tracks but then that's where your journey will end: right where they stopped you. And, they will win. You certainly don't want that. If you want to create a life of your dreams and satisfy your own curious spirit you have to find ways to go around anyone who may be holding you back. Their negativity and influence in your life should be a wake up call that it's time to take a new route on your road to success. But, be thankful to those people for giving you the clarity you needed to push harder or try something new.

Trust the Universe

Not one person on earth gets through this life without encountering someone who doubts them or just dislikes them for whatever reason. What fun is someone that everyone likes anyway? But, when those pesky doubters start getting a little too loud you have to find your trust and hope in the knowledge that the universe works for our good. After all, luck really is just hard work and preparation that come together when opportunity presents itself. I truly believe that people told me I couldn't do certain things or even laughed in my face for a reason. That reason is that it forced me to look inward and find my strength to overcome any outside voices. It may seem sugar coated, but I wouldn't be writing this today if it hadn't been for those who doubted me. It gave me the determination and sometimes the anger to prove each and every naysayer wrong over and over again. And, I still love the thrill of doing it!

Down From the Mountaintop: Meditation in the Modern World

The Jan. 9 issue of Parade magazine says that meditation is the No. 1 health booster available.

And a recent NBC News story revealed that Visitacion Valley Middle School in San Francisco falls quiet twice a day as the sixth, seventh and eighth grade students meditate for 15 minutes, with remarkable results. "Quiet Time" has decreased suspensions by 79 percent and attendance and academic performance has noticeably increased.

So, why is meditation just now being discovered (or re-discovered)?

All the evidence says quiet reflection creates greater awareness of your thoughts and feelings. It helps you to see things in a different way. It has a calming effect and can help relieve stress and frustration. In that space, you can make decisions with greater clarity and think more positively, creatively, and productively. It brings greater harmony between your brain hemispheres, which are often, if not usually, at odds with each other.

Personal reflection helps us to change our natural, default setting to a more aware and considerate state. It helps us conquer instinctual negative reactions and to become more proactive. In our reflection time, we can consider how we've thought, felt, and acted in past experiences and how we could have reacted differently. This then carries forward into how we act in the future.

Consistent personal reflection can also help us to break deeply-embedded negative habits that may be dragging us down. Personal reflection is a powerful way to become more aware of our decisions, to get the brain "participating" in decisions where previous habits may have shut it down.

And when we make personal reflection a "keystone habit" in our lives, the results over time can be astounding. Keystone habits are seemingly small and simple habits, but which can catalyze a ripple effect and have a major impact on every aspect of our lives. One proven example of this is exercise. As Charles Duhigg explains in his book, The Power of Habit:

When people start habitually exercising, even as infrequently as once a week, they start changing other, unrelated patterns in their lives, often unknowingly. Typically, people who exercise start eating better and becoming more productive at work. They smoke less and show more patience with colleagues and family. They use their credit cards less frequently and say they feel less stressed. It's not completely clear why. But for many people, exercise is a keystone habit that triggers widespread change.


From personal experience over the years, I know that consistent personal reflection has a similar effect. It makes me less stressed, frustrated, and reactive. It gives me greater clarity and makes me more aware of my thoughts, emotions, and motivations behind my choices. It makes me more kind and patient in relationships. In short, I know of few other ways to dramatically improve all our life's results. And the beauty of it is that it's incredibly simple to do. Not easy, but simple.

My clients, and high achievers in general, are doers and hard workers. They wouldn't have gotten to where they are without having the courage to take action, the drive to take initiative. So when I suggest that personal reflection, or meditation, may be useful for them, they usually don't get it at first. They're looking for advice on what they should do to overcome their challenges.

I respond that meditation is doing something -- and probably one of the hardest things anyone can do. I tell them that they are the experts on their business and they have the answers. They just have to find them and fish them up from their subconscious mind.

Most importantly, meditation (or quiet time, or whatever you may call it) creates space for you to choose and act proactively rather than reactively -- to widen the gap between stimulus and response. In his great book, Ownership Spirit, Dennis Deaton teaches:

Between stimulus and response we experience a mental interpretive gap. In that gap, we make choices; and in those moments of choice, the juice of life is squeezed ... Without awareness, the gap between stimulus and response narrows to the point that it seems to vanish altogether. When that happens, our responses become fairly mechanical and predictable -- just a series of conditioned responses to the routine flow of repeated stimuli, and we become unwitting victims of our habits. When we are mindful of the gap, however, and pause for a split-second consideration, we widen the gap and that begets options. We then see a spectrum of choices, and usually opt for something better.


If we want to discover a solution, the first step is to envision and focus on the desired outcome. What are you trying to make happen? What will your life and/or business look like when you've broken through your ceiling of limitations and achieved an ideal solution? What is your vision of the ideal outcome? Got it? Good. Now spend just 15 minutes a day sitting quietly, pondering that vision. See it in minute detail. Let the emotions flow through you of what it will feel like when you achieve your vision.

This helps you release your worries. Your random thoughts drift away. The power of your mind is harnessed and channeled toward the achievement of your goals.

Who doesn't want or need that?

Self-Care Tip: Hot Smoothie Recipe

The spices in this hot smoothie help your belly digest, and the temperature is wonderfully warm.

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Tuesday 27 January 2015

What East Coast Attitude? A Blizzard Brought The Selfless Side Out Of New Yorkers

The Big Apple often gets a bad rap for being a town of chilly attitudes. But during Winter Storm Juno, New Yorkers showed us that they're warm-hearted people who've got one another's backs.

From offering free transportation for people in need, to providing shelter for those without, the city's everyday heroes proved the best way to weather the storm is by lending a hand.

Nonprofit Kept New Yorkers In Need from Going Hungry






For the first time ever, the Food Bank for New York City closed all of its locations on Tuesday, putting 1.4 million locals at risk of going without food, Ross Fraser, director of media relations, told HuffPost via email.

To make sure that its clients could rest easy, City Harvest, a group that rescues about 50 million pounds of food annually, completed its entire route on Monday, which involved picking up excess grub from restaurants, grocers and greenmarkets and delivering those packages to food pantries and soup kitchens.






Kind Cabbies Gave Free Rides to People who Needed Them Most



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Drivers know better than anyone just how challenging –- and expensive -- it can be to hail a ride during a storm. That’s why some good people over at the Greater New York Taxi Association, an organization of medallion owners, chose not to charge emergency responders, people with disabilities and the elderly for a lift when the blizzard hit and in the aftermath of the storm, Newsweek reported. Eligible passengers just called 311 and a yellow taxi showed up as soon one became available.

“We offer our best efforts to help our fellow New Yorkers in this time of need,” Ronn Torossian, a spokesman for the GNYTA, told Newsweek.






Good People of Gotham Helped Keep the City Safe








The New York City Fire Department asked residents to help make sure hydrants were cleared of snow so they'd be ready for hose hookup in the event of an emergency. And volunteers eagerly answered their call. City dwellers took to social media to share their efforts, expressing gratitude in their posts for public officials who help keep the city safe.






This Hotel Offered Free Meals to Law Enforcement


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The Omni Berkshire Place Hotel realized that members of the police and fire departments would be working around the clock with little access to food, a hotel spokesperson told HuffPost. So the hotel staff decided to open its employee cafeteria to law enforcement, giving complimentary hot meals to those who were on-duty during the storm.







A Shelter Went To Great Lengths To Make Sure City's Homeless Stayed Warm






The Bowery Mission provided refuge for homeless individuals during the blizzard. While they provided emergency shelter to almost 200 people at Juno's height, the group also served breakfast to hundreds the next morning. The mission's chapel is currently keeping its doors open for anyone who needs an escape from the frigid weather.




News Anchor Helped Shovel Instead of Asking Questions



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After years of working the inclement weather beat, “Today Show” correspondent Jeff Rossen decided that instead of asking locals how they plan on shoveling out their snow, he'd loan a hand to help them do it. Starting Monday night, together with a worker from Expectations Snow Plowing, Rossen knocked on unsuspecting Long Island residents’ doors and offered to plow their driveways for free. (Well, he actually asked for the occasional mug of hot chocolate).




Group Braved Slick Streets to Keep Homeless People Warm



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Sure, New Yorkers were urged to stay indoors on Monday night, but for the Coalition for the Homeless, it was business as usual.

The advocacy group trekked to the Bronx and through Uptown and Downtown Manhattan to bring basic food items, blankets, sleeping bags, socks and winter apparel to people on the streets.

"Regardless of the weather, we are out and about," Juan De La Cruz, program manager of the coalition's Grand Central Food Program, told The Huffington Post.


3 Steps to Building a Powerful Yoga Community

While building communities may be possible by simply having a studio or teaching in an ideal location, a strong community takes a little more than that.

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Monday 26 January 2015

Exclusive Song Premiere: New Chakra Mantra, “Amazing Space”

An entire movie soundtrack based on the chakras? Consider us intrigued. Get a first listen to the title track by Kristin Hoffman.

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Exclusive Song Premiere: New Chakra Mantra, “Amazing Space”

An entire movie soundtrack based on the chakras? Consider us intrigued. Get a first listen to the title track by Kristin Hoffman.

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6 Tips on How to Manage Your Fearful and Obsessive Thoughts

There are times that we encounter fearful and obsessive thoughts that can be difficult to manage. For some people, the more they try to get rid of the thoughts, the stronger the thoughts become and the more difficult they become to manage. This is very common for people who deal with OCD.

Here are six techniques that a person can use to help manage their fearful and obsessive thoughts.

1. Don't Dwell on The Thought
The first thing a person must do is not to dwell or focus on the fear provoking thought when it comes. The more a person tries to reason out the thought or focus on the fear behind the thought, the stronger the thought becomes. The next time you encounter an obsessive thought, get into the practice of not dwelling on it.

2. Visualize a Red Stop Sign
A person should visualize a red stop sign in their mind when they encounter a fear provoking thought. When the negative thought comes, a person should think of a red stop sign that serves as a reminder to stop focusing on that thought and to think of something else. A person can then try to think of something positive to replace the negative thought.

3. Take It One Step at a Time
Learn to take it one day at a time. Instead of worrying about how you will get through the rest of the week or coming month, try to focus on today. Each day can provide us with different opportunities to learn new things and that includes learning how to deal with your problems.

4. It's Only Fear.
Remember that the difference between an obsessive thought and a regular thought is that an obsessive thought is based on fear. With this in mind, try to find the source of the fear behind the thought. Once you find the source of the fear, learn to manage it. Ignore the fear behind these obsessive thoughts, regardless how the strong the fear may be. If you ignore the fear behind these thoughts, then the thoughts become easier to manage.

5. Challenge Your Thoughts With Positive Statements
A person should keep a small notebook of positive statements that makes them feel good. Whenever they come across a positive and uplifting verse that makes them feel good, write it down in a small notebook. A person can then carry this notebook around in their pocket and whenever they feel anxious, they can read their notebook.

6. Get Help
Take advantage of the help that is available around you. If possible, talk to a professional who can help you manage your fears and anxieties. They will be able to provide you with additional advice and insights on how to deal with your current problem. By talking to a professional, a person will be helping themselves in the long run because they will become better able to deal with their problems in the future.

Prisoner of Technology Escapes!

No matter where we go in 2015 we can be reached at will by the outside world. Cell phones and text messages, Bluetooth and Sync, Skype and email -- you're only a click away from being found. Honey, you're in techno overload; I am a prisoner of technology!

Everywhere I am, it is rare for me not to see someone without a contact device. I am as guilty as anyone else; I am always connected. I love the Bluetooth sync in my car that allows me a hands-free talk fest as I'm driving. I love my cell phone for calls and those oh-so-important text messages, and I think Skype is the greatest thing created since the wheel. Oh yes, I am a well-connected woman!

But something happened when I was in pre-publication with my first book. A chance remark by my copy editor made me stop and think about how I was allowing myself to be a "prisoner" of all-day technology, every day.

Mentioning that I was going on vacation over the holidays, I also told her that she could reach me at any time she needed to do so. I would be available through my iPhone, Skype, my laptop, or my tablet 24 hours a day. "It's no problem," I said. "Contact me whenever you need me."

The response, coming from a woman who is excellent at what she does and always goes "above and beyond" for her authors, surprised me: "Oh no," she replied, "Take time to enjoy yourself. For me vacations are sacrosanct! You need to unplug, Kristen."

Her advice, though very difficult to do (I literally felt a little bit insecure without my tech lifeline to the world), made sense.

Therapists say that breaking the techno chain addiction can lead to depression and a feeling of being lost, so I was hesitant to completely go cold turkey. After the first two days, and only after my husband and I made a deal that all our "tech things" would be put in the safe in our resort room, did I begin to relax. I broke the invisible chain to my laptop and cell phone. (Okay, I admit that I did peek at my phone when my husband was in the shower but that was only once... or twice.) I recharged my life for a few days. It felt strange at first but I did it. The unplug and recharge feeling was so good I determined to make it a part of my life in 2015.

In a world where everyone is only a heartbeat away from a technology connection, we need to understand that it is in our power to "disconnect" and live in the moment. No one, save the most self-centered person will think any the less of you for unplugging to recharge your life. You can empower yourself to unplug and recharge by taking the following simple actions.

Turn off your cell!

Yes! Do it! If you're out to dinner, in a theatre, at a movie, on vacation (remember? vacation time is sacrosanct), live in the real moment and enjoy what's going on. You'll be refreshed, relaxed and happier.

Set a time limit for tech use use.

I get emails and texts at 3 a.m. and I have people asking me why I didn't respond! Seriously? Has no one ever heard of sleep? Yes, technology is a wonderful tool but, remember: There are only 24 hours in a day! It also helps to remember to assess your tech time and use it wisely; so much time for work, so much time for socializing and then walk away from it. Please.

Discover yourself.

What would you like to do that has nothing to do with computers, cell phones, or any other tech devices? What simple thing gives you pleasure? Music, walks, dancing, the arts? You may rediscover things that you have put on hold until "someday." Make your "someday" now.

Read a book, a "real" one.

I love my Kindle too, but the feel of an actual book in my hand coupled with turning the paper pages gives me a comfortable, happy feeling. It's the same as being with a friend in person and not on Skype -- a personal, touchable pleasure.

Daydream.

Watch a child who hasn't yet been introduced to DS games, iPhones, tablets, or any other handheld entertainment. They daydream and entertain themselves with unbridled imagination.

Finally, with pen and paper, write a short letter to someone updating them on your life. Email and texting may be faster and give instant gratification, but a hand-written missive is something to keep and treasure. Step away from techno-overload, unplug, recharge and discover life. Your life.

Now if you'll excuse me I have to answer a few texts, send some emails, Skype my friend Elle in Australia, and finish watching a missed episode of The Affair on my Kindle. Don't worry, I have it all in hand. I'm determined to unplug by 3 a.m.!

Copyright 2015 Kristen Houghton

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Sunday 25 January 2015

How to Thrive in 2015: Take Your Cue From These 7 Resilience All-Stars

By Jan Bruce

At the end of year I took a good hard look at who had exhibited considerable resilience in 2014, and made a list of my favorites. Not only do they serve as great examples of great empathy, optimism, self-efficacy, hope and initiative; they also are the most likely to flourish in the next year. Why? Because resilience is a skill that you build, and that, like any skill, gets better with practice. These folks leaned hard into the qualities and practices that allowed them to survive or rise above a tough time. Learn from what they did in 2014, and let them inspire your efforts to thrive in 2015.

1. Tim Cook came out.
How many openly gay CEOs of globally important, culturally significant, multibillion dollar companies can you think of? That's right. One. When Tim Cook publicly acknowledged his sexual orientation on October 30, he did so not only for himself, but to use his position and power to help others in the struggle for self-acceptance and equality. He laid his privacy on the line to stand up for his beliefs and pave the way for others. That's purpose, meaning, and connection at its finest.

2. Emma Watson announced a new movement for gender equality.
In our work with stress management, we see that people connecting to a high level of purpose -- something that reflects their deepest values -- improves their ability to weather tough times, helps make the world a better place and can inspire a legacy. Emma Watson displayed that connection when she took the floor at the United Nations and called for a new feminist movement, HeForShe, that specifically challenges and invites men to join the work of gender equality.

3. Medical workers and professionals fought against Ebola.
The doctors and nurses, aid workers and organizers who offered to care for those infected with the Ebola virus -- knowing full well the risks they faced -- showed core resilience traits of empathy, compassion, and optimism. Yes, optimism that the lives of the sick people mattered; that lives could be saved; that their efforts could make a difference. It's no wonder TIME magazine chose them as their Person of the Year.

4. Malala Yousafzai was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize.
Malala Yousafzai's believes that she has a right to an education. She believes that all girls have a right to education, despite an attempt on her life and a continued death threat from the Taliban. The depth of her commitment is matched only by the breadth of her influence. This year, the Nobel Committee recognized the profound resilience that helps her to advocate on behalf of girls worldwide whose right to an education is at risk or denied.

5. Three teens responded to police violence -- by creating an app.
Teenage siblings Caleb, Ima, and Asha Christian of Decatur, GA, were deeply disturbed by what they saw as a pattern of undocumented police violence. So they applied their talents, creativity, and optimism to the problem and created an app, Five-0, that allows citizens to enter the details of every interaction, positive or negative, with a police officer. This data can be used to understand which areas of the United States suffer police violence and which have positive police-citizen interactions, providing an evidence-based foundation for improving the health and resilience of communities across the country.

6. Bill Belichick kept (and keeps) his cool.
The head coach of the New England Patriots gets a lot of flak for appearing unemotional, even cold. But there's a flip side: Belichick doesn't let his emotions drive his thinking and judgement. He calmly cuts to the bottom line, taking into account the factors that matter, and adjusts his strategy as needed. He doesn't react impulsively to the pressure of the crowd.

7. SIRI helped a boy with autism connect with the world.
Gus has autism. He is bright and outgoing, but he doesn't understand social cues; he has obsessive interests; and he doesn't interact with the world typically. His mother, Judith Newman, wrote in the New York Times that "of all the worries the parent of an autistic child has, the uppermost is: Will he find love? Or even companionship?" Gus found it with SIRI, the Apple iPhone's intelligent voice-activated personal assistant. By interacting with SIRI, he's learning skills of companionship and love and bringing them to his family and community. Gus is building the emotional connections that make a life more resilient. And this situation suggests that SIRI, and other smart tech tools, can offer parents and communities a way to build on an autistic person's strengths rather than ostracize them for their weaknesses. This in turn makes our whole society more resilient in response to Autism Spectrum Disorders and other intellectual disabilities. But really, and best of all, a child found his best friend.

Friday 23 January 2015

Removing Roadblocks to Love

We all want to experience love and happiness in our lives, but there are times it feels like there's something standing between us, and the good feelings we long for. To let love in, we have to make a daily effort to be mindful of not letting in negative energy. When we judge others or hold onto old grievances, we create roadblocks to love.

Forgiveness is the gateway to love, and refusing to forgive keeps you from manifesting love and all of the other positive things you want in your life. Even when you accept that this is true, it can be difficult to forgive someone who has caused you pain.

Replace judgment with compassion.

We tend to be quick to judge others based on how they behave toward us. We find ourselves taking offense at someone's the words or actions and holding on to feelings of anger and resentment long after the incident has passed.

Next time someone makes a thoughtless comment or acts in a way that you find hurtful, pause for a moment and ask yourself two questions:

1. What is making me so quick to judge this person?

When you judge someone else, you are coming from a place of fear. Your own fears and insecurities are causing you to react with anger and judgment. Remind yourself that the traits we find most distasteful in others are those we fear most in ourselves. Before you take offense, consider the issues in your own life that need to be dealt with and healed in order for you to forgive.

2. What is this person's backstory?

It's easy to take things personally, but often the actions of another have nothing to do with you. Someone's insensitive words might be a result of their own insecurities, fear or pain. They may have forgotten to call you on your birthday because they're sick or grieving the loss of a loved one. Their critical remark about your new house might have been due to worry about their own financial or marital problems. The more you take the time to understand someone's backstory, the more easily you can respond to them with compassion instead of judgment.

Stop blocking the flow of love into your life.


Resentment and love are two powerful emotions - but they can't co-exist. If we only realized how the negative energy that comes from not forgiving blocks the flow of love and happiness into our own lives, we might start to perceive of the concept of forgiveness in a whole different light. Forgiveness isn't about being a "pushover" or letting someone else get away with something, it's about not letting anger and resentment take up space in our own hearts. We've all heard the saying "acid corrodes the vessel." Don't let resentment eat away at your soul. When you release bad feelings and forgive you leave room for compassion and love to flow in - and that's a good thing for everyone!


Remember that love is your natural state of being.


If you find yourself re-hashing an old grievance, or reacting with anger at the words or actions of someone else, pause for a minute. Don't let anger and resentment keep you from your natural state. Let forgiveness and compassion fill your heart and soul, and live a life filled with light and love.

Thursday 22 January 2015

L'Chaim! In Celebration of Life

The disastrous conditions and frightening events that surround us today are overwhelming to say the least. War, famine, pestilence, terrorism, poisoned environment. Economic, political and ecological nightmares, all. Plagues of biblical proportions. Oh, woe. Oy, vey. Who feels like celebrating?

Yet, here we are -- in possession of the great gift of being alive. How do we dare not to celebrate? How can we not gather together in joy to honor our connection, our communion, our social contract? How dare us not to reach out to embrace each other and to appreciate the bountiful blessings of breath and food, shelter and love? It would be like spitting in the face of Life not to celebrate it.

All we have in this world is our life. We owe it to ourselves, the lucky ones, the privileged, the living, to be very, very thankful to be alive in this magnificent but dangerous world. We owe it to those whose lives and livelihoods have been upended, or ended altogether, to honor their presence and their impact on our life and times. We owe it to the entire complicated universe to live our precious life with full consciousness, conscience and compassion.

And we owe it to Life itself to wake up each morning with gratitude and retire each night filled with reverence and awe at the mighty miracle of it all, humbled, to have been even an infinitesimal part of the wonder, the wisdom, the intricately woven web of existence.

We must live the life that we have, while we can, as best as we can and appreciate and celebrate every minute of it. L' chaim!, the Yiddish toast, "To life!" recognizes and salutes life in all of its fullness and complexity. It celebrates all of it -- the good, the bad and the ugly -- for tomorrow we die.

Several years ago I went to a 60th birthday bash at the Tropicana Night Club in Manhattan. Manuel, whose party it was, was scheduled for major surgery early the next morning. But meanwhile, here he was turned out in a spiffy tux playing most gracious host to all of his friends. The champagne flowed, the salsa was hot and the merengue was cool.

Since the party goers were mostly of a certain age, it would be safe to assume that they had all seen and suffered a good bit thus far in their lives. Yet, here they were, aches, pains, disappointments, sorrows and all, dressed to the nines, eating, drinking, laughing, dancing the night away.

How beautiful and brave we human beings can be. Though fully cognizant of our mortality and the perils that surround us, we gamely keep on continuing on. Ever trying to make things better. Making the best of things. Living as if it mattered. May we mambo in their footsteps, ever spinning toward perspective, acceptance, compassion, wisdom and grace.

May we be walking, talking, living celebrations. L'Chaim!

3 Traits of a Nobel Peace Prize Recipient

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Martin Luther King, Jr. was a man who used his faith and rhetoric to punch society in the face. He was a humanitarian to the depth of his being. His composure blew the minds of everyone who had the privilege of listening to him speak from behind a podium. His met others with a consistently fierce presence and defiant compassion.

The MLK holiday always ignites sharp thinking. It's a day of remembrance. It is a day of immense gratitude. And the days that follow can be spent in deep states of consciousness, reflecting on the lives our forefathers led and which ways of living we want to continue. Furthermore, we can decide when to be strong enough to let go of the old mindset and start anew.

I have looked deeply into my own experiences: feeling helpless as I watched my mom become a widow at age 56, sadly embracing a friend who is experiencing the throws of divorce, coming to terms with a colon cancer diagnosis. At some point it all started to make sense. We have every opportunity to turn our biggest challenges into our greatest gifts. In fact, this is the thinking of mindfulness master, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

We can take the pain of adversity and transform it into energy that lifts us into a new dimension of living. When change takes the wheel, we can insist upon claiming our power in the midst of surrender. No, surrender is not weak. Surrender takes guts and perseverance. It takes strength. We can look at adverse situations as simply unfair. Or we can choose to step up. We can decide to walk into the light so others can live knowing that they aren't alone in their pain. They can live contently, knowing someone else had the courage and commitment to take a stand despite the sorrow.

When we rise in unity to mindfully recognize our hurdles, we have the ability to march together using the power in numbers to propel us into a new way of living. Dr. King knew this and made it happen from Selma to Montgomery, Alabama in 1965. He announced his intention with such conviction that thousands of his brothers and sisters followed him regardless of the cost. It was worth it. 54 miles of movement and the message of peace threaded through each heart as they burst open down those roads. What a beautiful story of nonviolent demonstration.

Dr. King called on his inner place of peace over and over again to encourage others to listen and think differently. He catalyzed a shift in millions of others. For his mastery in leading the way to freedom, Time magazine readers voted him 6th in the "Person of the Century" poll. And among many other prestigious honors, his perspective and allegiance to it also earned him a Nobel Peace Prize. We must learn from leaders like Dr. King.(2) He gave it his all. He sacrificed his life.

Taking a stand is urgent. Using our voice is imperative. We cannot afford to neglect service to others for the sake of humankind. For those interested in keeping the goodness going, take some notes from mindfulness master, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Let's allow his life and this day to remind us how we should live. Let these descriptions be ways in which others describe you.

Vigor -- Take time for self-study. You will learn the most about the world when you take pleasure in knowing the shadows in your own being. Live with reckless abandon. Stand on a platform and speak loudly and clearly. Circle yourself with people who believe your words. Lead with intention. Don't take no for an answer when the truth comes to you straight from deep within your heart. Don't be afraid. Be prolific.

Harmony -- Let peace rule. Remember that hate crimes do not get any job done. Know that being right isn't what is important. Trust that being strong will get you exactly where you need to be. Understand that feeling weak is part of gaining more strength. When inner peace isn't accessible, find some way to release whatever pollutant is in the way. Haters are going to hate. Shift your attention elsewhere when they show up. Continue to believe in something better. Do not be afraid that death will be the end of you. Winning is temporary. Your biggest dreams live on as long as you share them. It's a lifelong practice to live in harmony with your surroundings. Sometimes that means you need to initiate big change.

Kick Ass -- Yes. Whatever you do, be a master of kicking ass. Give yourself, your loved ones, your community a swift kick in the rear to wake up from tired ways of thinking. Do not criticize the current situation without offering reasonable options to get from A to B. Offer honest advice. Never, ever be concerned with moving forward when doors are opening. You can certainly gain the respect of someone new by putting yourself out there. You can influence a dozen or hundred or thousand more lives. Shake old patterns and practice the power of choice.

(1) http://kingian.net/awards-recognition.html

Daily Meditation: Heritage

We all need help maintaining our personal spiritual practice. We hope that these Daily Meditations, prayers and mindful awareness exercises can be part of bringing spirituality alive in your life.

Today's meditation features a traditional Andean song played by Peruvian musician Rumiñahui. The piece draws on musical traditions of the Incan people in Peru, reminding us of the power of heritage and cultural legacy.

Changing the World From Within: An Interview With Eckhart Tolle

In part one of this new interview series, Changing the World From Within, Eckhart Tolle speaks to Suza about the violence in our world -- and how human beings can lose their sense of humanity and empathy, inflicting suffering on one another.

Suza Scalora: We are constantly hearing about a world that is violent, chaotic and frightening. It seems as though we're inundated with painful, horrific stories by way of the Internet, newspapers and other media outlets. The newest headline, for example, was about another possible beheading by the terrorist group, ISIS. How can we find inner peace with all this insanity around us?

Eckhart Tolle: There are many aspects to this. It is important to realize that a large percentage of what we hear or see on the news focuses on those places where there is violent conflict. These tend to be the more unconscious pockets of the planet, where there is still a considerable degree of collective unconsciousness.

SS: Can you explain what you mean when you say, "unconsciousness?"

ET: It is important to understand that when I call a person "unconscious," I am not referring to somebody who has fainted or blacked out. I am referring to someone who is spiritually unconscious. This is to say that the person is completely in the grip of their ego -- their false sense of self. The ego gives rise to a sense of separateness between oneself and others, or between "us" and "them." A human being in the grip of the ego is identified with mental images or ideas about who they are. The mind creates these mental images, or stories. Then a person's identity, their sense of who they are, is defined through those images or stories. When this happens, there is a tendency for the egoic person to compulsively judge others, thereby making them into enemies. The ego does this to strengthen its ultimately fictitious sense of self. Whatever a person thinks or believes is, of course, conditioned by the past: their upbringing, the culture they live in -- including the collective belief systems of that culture -- their education, family background and so on. A person who is in the grip of the ego is totally identified with the conditioned content of their mind.

Such a person's thinking, as well as behavior, is therefore completely determined by the ego. This is what I mean by the term "unconscious."



SS: It seems that our Western culture is gripped by the ego as much as other parts of the world. Could you explain what it means for a pocket of the world to be more unconscious than another? What does it mean to be collectively unconscious?

ET: In the West, as well as some other parts of the world, the personal sense of ego tends to predominate, whereas in other areas there is a more collective sense of ego. This collective ego emphasizes the "we" rather than the "I." The collective ego may be tribal, religious, nationalistic, or ideological. For example, there may be a religious or political belief structure that people identify with in the collective that makes up a large part of a person's sense of self or identity. It is less these days than it was in the 20th century, when millions of people were in the grip of collective belief systems. For example, when Mao Tse-tung was in power in China, millions of people were totally conditioned by their collective belief system. This was also the case with Nazi Germany and Soviet Communism. When people are so identified with their collective belief system, their ego becomes enormously pronounced. This collective ego begins looking for "enemies" in order to strengthen the sense of separateness on which the ego depends for its survival.

The personal ego already has a strong element of dysfunction, but the collective ego is, frequently, even more dysfunctional, to the point of absolute insanity. The greatest atrocities that have been committed on the planet were perpetrated by the collective ego. For example, if you go back to the Middle Ages, during the Inquisition, it was a time in which torture and persecution was enacted in the name of religion. The Christian message was completely misunderstood and so the religion became an egoic mind structure. People committed atrocities because their entire sense of self was bound up with that belief structure. Even worse things, of course, happened in the 20th century -- as we all know.

SS: How does one become that detached from their humanity? How do people get caught up in this collective mindset?

ET: When people get taken over by the ego to such an extent, there is nothing else in their mind except the ego. They can no longer feel or sense their humanity -- what they share with other human beings, or even with other life forms on the planet. They are so identified with concepts in their minds that other human beings become concepts as well. This causes a sense of separateness, on which the ego thrives.

If you are an Islamic Extremist, for example, you view others as infidels who do not share your belief system and so they are pronounced 'evil.' You can no longer sense the humanity, or Beingness, of those who don't share your belief system. Once you have conceptualized a person, violence becomes almost inevitable. This is because you are not seeing them as a human being anymore. It becomes impossible for you to have any kind of empathy with another individual who does not fit into your collective mind structure.

We often ask, "How is it possible that human beings can inflict such suffering on their fellow humans?" The answer is that they are totally in the grip of the ego. The ego's complete inability to have empathy for others explains how such atrocities can be committed on the planet. Jesus on the cross is reported to have said, "Forgive them for they know not what they do." In contemporary terminology, he probably would have said, "Forgive them, for they are completely unconscious."

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Tuesday 20 January 2015

Elders Around The World Share The One Piece Of Advice They'd Give Younger People

The best advice really is the simplest -- and who better to dish it out than the people who have seen and lived through it all. YouTube personality Freddy Ligaard "Fairhair" set out to ask elders across the world what's the one piece of advice they'd dole out to younger people, knowing what they know now. Fairhair and his team interviewed countless seniors, with what they estimate to be a total of 3,500 collective years of life experience, asking "If you could say one thing to the younger people out there, what would that be?"

Wise words came from elders in countries around the world including the U.S., Brazil, China, Norway and South Korea. While they speak many languages and offer advice on many topics, the underlying message is strikingly similar: life shouldn't be taken too seriously.

"Life is shorter than you think. The older you get, the faster it goes," said one man. "Slow down," said another.

Ligaard, 24, said he got the idea because he likes talking to older people. "I've liked listening to old people. Sometimes I fall out, but when they're talking about life, I tune in. They are most qualified for it. They have lived the longest. They have [the] most life experience," he said in an email to The Huffington Post.

The video is fast gaining popularity on YouTube, with around 150,000 views in less than a week.

"Some viewers think it's not something new from what they've heard. And it isn't, I agree. It's so simple. But I think once someone really sees it for him or herself, it'll not sound like old news anymore," he said.

Watch the video above and let us know your thoughts in comments below.

Check out more of Freddy's videos on his Youtube channel.

Yoga for Mental Clarity

Clear your mind with quieting forward bends, twists, and balancing poses to restore mental focus and clarity.

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Yoga for Mental Clarity

Clear your mind with quieting forward bends, twists, and balancing poses to restore mental focus and clarity.

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I'm Not Pregnant. It's Just My Belly

It was my last full day on vacation down the Jersey Shore -- a vacation where I indulged on piping hot donuts and buckets of fries on more than one occasion. My partner and I decided to check out Cape May. I dressed for the occasion in a white and grey striped dress that clung to me like a koala to a tree.

Waiting for my guy at the local coffee shop, I encountered a man, about 40. He looked at me and smiled.

"You look great," he said, his teeth made even whiter by the bronzed glow of his sun-washed skin.

"Thanks," I said, leaning against the counter in a somewhat slumping manner. You know, the kind where your belly pushes out...

"When are you due? " he asked.

"Umm, due for what?" I asked.

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It took a moment for me to catch on. He thought I was pregnant. I wasn't. I corrected my posture and sucked my belly back into place. The man put his bronzed foot in his big mouth. My partner, meanwhile shot me an "Oh shit" look and stayed out of it. Smart man.

I left the coffee shop and watched as a flood of various emotions (all triggered by my ego) rose to the surface. First I was confused. I've taught yoga for twelve years, eat healthy, drink a green smoothie every day and have a metabolism like a racehorse.

And this is where you stop reading because you refuse to read about a fit women complaining about being fat. Don't worry, that's not what's happening. Keep reading.

Then I got annoyed at this silly man who seemed to be ruining my day with his dumb comment. Of course, he could only ruin my day if I let him.

Then I felt insecure. This surprised me because I have always loved my shape. My body has filled out over the years and yes, I feel insure from time to time but I have never really struggled with body image -- something I know is rare. Yet, for the first time in 34 years I was tying my jacket around my waste to cover up what one man thought was my pregnant belly.

Then I realized something. My strong body image was a direct result of feeling validated by society. I felt good about my body because for many years it fit a stereotype. Men and women would validate my body and I soaked it up. So while I was confident, it was merely based on external factors. And if you ask me, that type of confidence is treacherous. When things change, and they always will, that confidence crumbles because it was never real in the first place. True confidence comes from the inside out.

Where did this flat belly standard come from anyway? There was a time when women's bodies were celebrated for being round and juicy and voluptuous and in many parts of the world this is still the case. However, in the West the flat belly seems to rule. Over the years I have seen beautiful women with shapely, healthy bodies stuffed into Spanks, hiding this very precious piece of themselves -- their bellies.

Not only is it uncomfortable, it is also energetically constricting. During a six-week stay in India, I was told to sleep without any elastic constricting around my belly so my energy could move. The energy of this area connects to our sexuality, money, pleasure and our ability to flow. For women, this area is the sacred center where we hold life and yet it seems we have been conditioned to not only cover it up but to suffocate it.

While I have no problem with wanting to get in shape and lose some belly fat, I also believe it is vital to connect with the "why." For me, witnessing the array of emotions I felt without trying to get my partner to validate me was really empowering. I knew his validation wouldn't help. We need to validate ourselves first. We need to embrace our bodies. But we also need to be honest with ourselves in the process and honest with each other, especially when we are in leadership roles.

As a yoga instructor, I know people look up to me and my body. If I am feeling inadequate about my body but decide to come off as confident, I am no longer serving them but instead I am giving them a false and unrealistic impression. As someone people look to for guidance, I know my honesty is one of my biggest gifts. Most of us have someone who looks up to us, whether it is our children, students, coworkers, employees or friends. I think it's important to consider how we want to show up for them.

As we continue to integrate in a world that so often tells us how to feel, how to look, and has a very precise definition of beauty, it is so important for each one of us to check in and see if we agree with these standards. It is time for us to create our own standards. For me, this begins with speaking our truth, loving our bodies and rocking our bellies. We are certainly seeing this more as certain celebrities speak out about Photoshop and musicians write music about redefining beauty. But we can't rely on celebrities. We need to create change within ourselves.

After some time and a few breaths, I smiled and unwrapped my jacket from my waste. I decided to let me little belly be. I wasn't confident the whole time, but I was honest. And if you ask me, honesty is damn sexy.

Gratitude Practice: The Power of a Hand-Written Thank You Note

Bring your gratitude to life with a simple note. How this little act of kindness is proving to have larger benefits.

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Gratitude Practice: The Power of a Hand-Written Thank You Note

Bring your gratitude to life with a simple note. How this little act of kindness is proving to have larger benefits.

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Monday 19 January 2015

#ChakraTuneUp2015: Intro to the Visuddha

Discover the physical and mental signs of blocked energy in the fifth chakra and how you may benefit from aligning it.

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INSIDE #YJLIVE: Saturday Night With DJ Drez + MC Yogi’s Tribe

DJ Drez spinning A Tribe Called Quest provided the beats for MC Yogi's Saturday night class/concert at YJ LIVE! SF.

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Saturday 17 January 2015

INSIDE #YJLIVE: Inspiring Moments from In-Depth Yoga Classes

Get an inside look at the event through these shots captured by photographer Tony Felgueiras in Friday's all-day intensives.

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Friday 16 January 2015

High School Dropout Teaches High School? Say What?

This is a post about the transformative benefits of self-discipline, in the hopes that if you are stuck in life in ways that you feel limited and blocked from creating a really great life, from being your very best self, perhaps my sharing will create a new opening of possibility for you.

So ... this is not really a story about a high-school drop out teaching high school. But I guess it is. I did both. I dropped out of high school and I taught high school.

Say what?

How does that work?

Let's begin with self-discipline.

This story is about self-discipline.

I believe self-discipline is the most underrated code of behavior.

OK, Where to begin?

For me, the place to begin this story is inside the context that I created for myself, and that is the context of self-discipline.

Suffice it to say, it was a very "event-filled" time of life for me. But more importantly, it was what I created for myself from all the events that unfolded, that I garnered a full scholarship from our country's first women's college, Mount Holyoke College, MHC.

Yes. A full-scholarhsip. Full. Though of course I had to fulfill the necessary requirement of earning a GED. Ha! Yes, can you imagine that the director of the Frances Perkins Scholars Association of our country's first college for women, the amazing Kay Altoff, literally "coached" me around getting a GED so that I could apply?

Extraordinary.

The criteria at the time that I was accepted to MHC was to demonstrate high motivation and ferocious tenacity, in the face of seemingly insurmountable adversity across time.

Check, I could do that.

But not so fast. With my first application I was not accepted because I could not yet provide enough academic background for them to assess my capabilities and aptitude.

Think heartbreak. Think crushed.

After all my hard work at Central Connecticut State University, CCSU after all the calls to Altoff to get each class approved as solid foundation to attend MHC, how could this happen?

However, they did recommend I reapply so they could better assess my ability to keep up with the academic rigor of the school.

Reapply? I more felt like quitting. Giving up. Letting my 'fantasy' completely go.

But this is when the force of self-discipline-steam started to really amp up!

Though my mind let me release my dream of attending MHC, sorta', this school that now felt to me like "my" Yale University in the woods, a school that genuinely "cares" for women, my heart never let go. Mary Lyon, the foundress of MHC, pulled at me from my first visit to the campus with her guiding credo, "go where no one else has gone, do what no one else has done."

I returned to CCSU and immersed myself into my studies with laser focus. I was determined and my determination required high-level self-discipline. This is very likely when my, ummm ... my kind of "freak of nature" obsession for learning, personal development and growth began to possess me.

This new "game" of self-actualization and self-discipline began to feel like a really fun puzzle to put together.

I consciously and unconsciously queried, "If I exercise self-discipline in this area, what could I create?"

Personal development became my entertainment of choice, and self-discipline as a key player in this new game directed my course.

I went on to earn an MEd at Boston College and post-graduate work at Cornell Universtiy. I earned certification at the Institute for Integrative Nutrition, and participated extensively in transformation, success and personal development work with Landmark Education and Robbins International. I've worked with Spiritual directors, personal mentors, accountability partners, and literally 100s of success-driven teachers. I studied with Dr. Bob Marshal and was certified in Quantum Reflex Analysis, which is a healing modality that incorporates both Eastern and Western philosophy. I studied with author, nutritionist and detox specialist Natalia Rose, and yoga teacher training with Live, Love, Teach. And yup, I did teach High School History at one of Boston's premier high schools for 2 years!

Heck, I walked on fire several times at Anthony Robbins events, traveled abroad several times and now I am building a business of contribution and service that is beyond the dreams I ever even imagined!

What did I sacrifice? Immediate gratification?

Self-Discipline is non-negotiable.

I can create goals. I can intend to achieve this or achieve that all day long, but without self-disciplined follow through, forget about it!

Darren Hardy, author of The Compound Effec taught me a formula and it really resonated with me when I learned it, because it was a formula life already taught me. Hardy wrote in his book," "Small, smart choices + consistency + time = radical difference."

For me, this formula says to let go of immediate gratification and choose to forgo what I want now, and do what I know I need to do right now, repeatedly, over time, and I can create a life that literally moves mountains.

This game, this obsession to be the very best me I can be, while here in this one lifetime, with self-discipline guiding my decisions and my ability to take on 100% responsibility transformed my whole life.

This obsession was purely Spirit-driven -- no doubt.

Tony Robbins says "success without fulfillment is failure." By making small smart choices, I created the extraordinary opportunity to literally be of service in the world in ways that I know makes a difference beyond my one little life and I love every minute of it!

You've tried. You've failed. You've tried again, to no avail, but you are eager to "pick your game up." You are eager to blow out all the reasons that continue to stop you from moving forward every step of the way. You are eager to drop all the reasons that get in your way to choose powerfully.

So my question to you is, where have you been playing small? Where have you allowed reasons to pull you out from going after what you really want? If you don't' shift 'your health game,' let's say, what do you think the consequences will be in your life, in 1 year, 2 years, 5 years?

Equally important to consider, what are the benefits you gain from not challenging yourself in the ways that you know will serve you well? Are those benefits just immediate gratification?

If you struggle with answering any of these questions I encourage you to find an accountability partner, or a coach to raise your bar, to challenge you, to call you out when you know you are "hiding out," from living your Highest potential and very best self.

Remixing and Rebooting Resolutions

So we're two weeks into the new year, and your resolution is now a thing of the past. Life has taken over, and you are not just falling short, you are also falling off.

You said you'd work out three times a week but haven't been to the gym yet.
You said you wanted to stop eating sugar, red meat or drinking, but you just had a steak and margarita.
You said you were gonna cut negative people out of your life, but you just finished gossiping.

So now what?
As traditional as it is for people to set resolutions to take effect with the New Year, part of the tradition is ditching those very same resolutions.

Knowing that you've fallen off, you are either mad at your failure, or making fun of it. Either way, now it's time to make a decision.

What do you do now? The answer is simple, but the practice is difficult.

Push forward and don't look back.

It doesn't matter that you've tried and failed 10 times. It doesn't matter that you have certain challenges or obstacles to overcome. It doesn't matter that your goals are unfamiliar.

What matters is that you are here now, and you know where you are going. Overall, your goal is simple, you want to be better.

Why? Because there is something inside you that knows that this should not be your reality -- whatever it is. You intend to move forward. All you need to do is reboot your resolution in order to realize your resolution, and here's how:

1. Visualize it.
People are more inclined to stick with a goal and to adopt better habits if they can see what the end result actually looks like. Having a mental picture doesn't cut it. It's kind of like telling the teacher, "I have the paper, it's all in my head!" It doesn't count.

Create a vision board that represents your future lifestyle that includes fitness, financial and business goals. Post the vision board in a high-traffic location in your house. Seeing is believing! So what, your family will see it? So what, you have a roommate?

Your vision is your vision. Be proud of it. If they see it, they may be supportive and possibly inspired by your drive to live better. Also, make your environment encouraging.

2. Value it.
Make it a priority. Make it part of your purpose and live it passionately. When you value living better, and reaching a particular goal in life, you have to take inventory in your life. Every interaction should be preceded by an evaluation of "How is this going to hurt or help?"
For example, your friends want to go out to happy hour and you know that you want to hit up a dance class this evening. You have to make a decision whether to suck-up or sweat off the calories.

Here's another example: You want to finish up a chapter in a book you've been writing, but your sister wants to babysit overnight. Do you sit with your "baby" or hers?

In order to succeed at any resolution you have to turn your wants into needs. If you had a work deadline and your job depended on it, you would gladly decline the happy hour and tell your sister "Sorry, I can't."

3. Vary it.
There are different ways to reach your goal. The great thing about having lived is being able to assess your failures, shortcomings and talents. Looking back on the past challenges is a wonderful way to figure out the new stuff. If something doesn't work, then try another way.

No matter what stage in life you're at, there's always a way to set and reach your goals. Time's a ticking!

Thursday 15 January 2015

Five Ways Ghostwriting Is Good for the Soul

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On New Year's Day, I sat on the floor of a thrift store near Wells, Maine, leafing through the yellowing pages of an Alice Notley narrative poem. I silently read each stanza, startled by the way its strange staccato rhythm entered me, and thought: I once believed all books would eventually be found this way -- treasures unearthed in dusty shops on the side of the road.


I had feared paper books would go the way of the mastodons -- in those years when they stopped teaching children cursive writing, and even the chain bookstores that put independents out of business went belly up.

Slowly, my attitude changed. I found back alley bookstores. I had also started to ghostwrite.

When I tell people I am a ghostwriter, they generally ask me to explain what the heck that word means. Ghostwriting is the craft of translating people's spoken stories onto the page. Ghostwriters either share credit with the person the story is about; or disappear and gracefully let him/her take full credit.

Some believe that it's cheating. Yet, humans have been practicing ghostwriting in some form or another since time immemorial -- from Thoth, the Egyptian scribe to the underworld to Shel Silverstein who ghostwrote songs for Johnny Cash. A huge portion of celebrity and politician biographies were ghostwritten. It has always been done.

It is only lately however -- with the advent of the Internet, self-publishing and print on demand --that everyone and their grandmother has decided to share their stories on paper. The majority of these are autobiographies. When ordinary people turn their stories into books; remarkable things occur.

Five Reasons Ghostwriting is Good for the Soul

1) There really are stories out there that belong in the world. Any time we read a book, we gain an intimate perspective on another person's life. This perspective tends to stick with us more than any article or newscast.

There is no time that connection is more necessary than now. Projects I bid on or participated in include everything from: a woman who wanted to write her book before her brain/body deteriorated from Huntington's disease, to a girl who was trafficked, to a boy who spent half his life in prison.

The world that we live in can be an incredibly terrifying, fragmenting place. We need each other to share our truths, to make sense of it all. Ghostwriting allows people who do not necessarily know how to/want to write a whole book by themselves, to share experiences that then become part of our collective awareness.


2) Sharing a story is incredibly brave: Sharing life stories takes a lot of guts. Most people spend a large portion of their lives bogged down by feelings of shame. Sharing stories can help to break destructive familial and societal codes of secrecy.


3) It helps people uncover their true story: This society is not really receptive to the art of slow, deliberate conversation. Most people are never allowed the silence it takes to understand their experience. They are rarely allowed the luxury of telling their whole story to anyone, even their mates.

Written material has been delivered to me on cocktail napkins, yellow pads, carbon copied typewritten pages, the backs of photographs and emails. Yet, the majority of ghostwritten books require extensive, personal interviewing. This allows the "author" of the ghostwritten piece authentic time to delve into memories, opinions, events. "Authors" reveal these stories to me, sure, but more to themselves.

When necessary, I coax them to fill in a blank, to go deeper in telling, to bring in all their senses. We piece these swatches together like a quilt, set in the larger context of the world.

The interview and subsequent writing process may also be regarded as a form of self-therapy or meditation.


4) It allows history to be preserved. The popularity of sites like ancestry dot com prove that people are interested in finding their family roots, and that family stories are not always preserved. The most touching interviews are those for individuals who feel a deep seeded need to write down family stories to share with their children and grandchildren.


5) People who have books ghosted are great readers. It is nearly impossible to explain what the process of writing a book is like to somebody who has never done it. Freelance sites contain a plethora of requests from potential clients with wildly unrealistic expectations.... (Please write and deliver to me in two weeks a best-selling nonfiction spiritual novel about my cousin's experiences hunting vampires and practicing necrophilia. I will tell you exactly how to do it.)

However, most people who make a commitment to really see a ghostwritten project through to fruition are open to learning about book writing. The process of writing/co-writing a book is a great teacher. People who had their books ghostwritten have been known to frequent roadside bookstores, to spend hours on their knees examining the spines of paperbacks, lingering over pages, savoring their words.

Wednesday 14 January 2015

The One Way to Be Indispensable at Work This Year

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Here we are: A New Year filled with endless hopes and dreams. It's exciting, but may feel scary for some of us, especially when it comes to our career growth.

I spoke with a friend recently who told me he just got fired. When I asked him why, he said: "I have no idea!"

One of my hopes is that he never experiences that again, and here's what I'm telling him, and anyone else who wants to be indispensable at work this year:

Don't settle. That is, don't settle with seeking skills that aren't relevant anymore. Don't settle for only working harder and smarter. It takes working different.

In a world where robots and computers are fighting for our jobs, what's the key to staying ahead, and leading the future? Let me just say first that I'm always skeptical of the "silver bullet", but in this case this answer is exactly that. It isn't knowledge, and it's not about being the smartest person in the room. According to extensive studies, the most vital skill is conceptualization. Its raw definition is "the ability to formulate an idea or concept, particularly in an abstract environment", or simply "to be able to connect the dots." Here's how:

Think differently. Machines aren't good at ideating. Ever brainstormed with your computer? Right, like never. We're still decades, or at least years from that. Today it's about constantly putting new thinking into the universe, taking risks, and challenging the status quo, and then getting richly rewarded with success (and not the pink slip).

Make connections. This is a huge differentiator in a world of silos. There's so much stuff that needs connecting -- ideas, people, technologies, brands, customer service, product lines. And again, robots won't be doing that any time soon. So why not you and me?

Inspire others with authenticity. Robots or people who lead with their ego don't get choked up or share good personal stories (i.e. try asking Siri about how her day went). But those who lean in with their whole selves at work, admit they don't know everything, and look to power up others will be the ones who are anxiously retained and rewarded with opportunities.

Be generous -- the greatest impacts come from helping others. Those who conceptualize are more likely to see beyond themselves to help others, being generous in innovative ways. This is the future in an increasingly emotional economy.

Here's to the best year ever. This is your time. Make your work inspire everyone around you with newfound power. The world is hard-pressed for leaders like you to be the magnet to connects things and bring solutions no one else thought possible. Conceptualize and be indispensable!

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LÄRABAR Tip of the Week: Less Is More

Do you ever find yourself surrounded by too much “stuff,” whether it’s actual clutter, too many emails in your inbox, or too much junk food in your pantry?

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4 Year old feeds 6 hungry pit bulls

An absolutely adorable 4 girl year old proves once and for all that stigmas against pit bulls are undeserved and hilariously wrong.

Watch the youtube video of this girl getting all 6 grown pit bulls to sit, and wait to eat until she gives them ok.



Spoilers! No one gets attacked, there is only love.

Tuesday 13 January 2015

Winter Slow Flow: 9 Warming Poses

Cooped up inside waiting out winter's deep freeze? This practice would be a wise use of your time.

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Restore Your Harmony and Connection With Two Words

It's Monday morning. There's a big meeting at work, and you cannot be late. In a nervous rush, you skip breakfast, scramble to locate your keys, and head out only to find torrential rain... and a dead car battery.

No matter what set of circumstances seem to be conspiring to rob you of your ability to thrive, there is one way you can shift gears, expand your energy, and immediately restore your flow.

Be still, take a breath and say, "I accept."

Two Words That Will Change Your Life
When you take the time for stillness amidst the chaos, you stop the momentum of a frenzied thought process. This precious pause allows you to stay anchored in the moment, transcend the world of "doing," and consciously connect with your true self. When a situation arises, stop; take a breath, say the words, "I accept" and fill in what's happening at the moment. Your conscious acknowledgment allows you to embrace the stillness and let the anxiety, anger, or frustration pass through you. Acceptance defuses turmoil in your moment of need. You take a moment to recognize your emotions, experience them, and let them pass - making room for spaciousness and clarity to deal with the issues at hand.

Accessing Soulful Reality
Acceptance is the doorway to your optimal vibrational state: harmony and flow with everything that's authentically unfolding. Your optimal state allows for efficiency. It's difficult to flow with present challenges when you are weighed down by denial. The more you accept reality, the easier it is to meet and receive all of life with neutrality. When you embrace acceptance fully, you're not accessing your life through the conscious or the unconscious. You're accessing it through your soul.

The Three-Minute Daily Healing Routine
Practicing acceptance is not limited to the speed bumps you encounter in life. It needs to become a healing daily routine. Make your objective completing at least three minutes of relaxation, stillness and acceptance every day. It can be over your morning coffee, on a walk to the grocery store, or in your office with the door closed. Performing this daily ritual will help you lessen self-scrutiny, honor your sacredness, and put you back on the road toward your peaceful, authentic self.

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Monday 12 January 2015

Life Tips From The Ph.D. Who's Discovering How Meditation Changes Your Brain

Britta Hölzel is not your typical yoga teacher. Or your typical Ph.D. neuroscientist.

In recent years, during fellowships at Harvard Medical School and elsewhere, Hölzel has co-authored a range of studies focused on the intersection of two great passions of her life, how meditation and yoga affect the brain.

Most notably, in 2011, she and her colleagues found that people “who meditated for about 30 minutes a day for eight weeks had measurable changes in gray-matter density in parts of the brain associated with memory, sense of self, empathy and stress.”

Brain scans of the meditators showed "increased gray matter in the hippocampus, an area important for learning and memory" and "a reduction of gray matter in the amygdala, a region connected to anxiety and stress," the New York Times reported. "A control group that did not practice meditation showed no such changes.”

The Huffington Post interviewed Dr. Hölzel for Sophia, a project to collect life lessons from fascinating people. Currently on parental leave, she shared practical wisdom about happiness, relationships, her daily routines, how to get started with meditation, and the books she's found most influential. She also discussed findings from her latest research on mindfulness and the brain.

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Have you had any recent realizations about living a rewarding life?

I think I'm relearning many things over and over again, because it's so easy to lose all these lessons. Just these last days it has become clear again how important presence is to living a rewarding life, being aware of what's happening in the present moment and being mindful.

It's like, whoa, it makes such a big difference. It's so easy to go on with your daily routines -- especially now, with a baby -- having your routines of doing the dishes, the laundry, and all that stuff, and forgetting about being present to what's actually happening in your life.

It's so easy, really, to miss your own life. What I value are these brief moments when you wake up to the fact that you're actually living, that you're alive and healthy, and the fact that it is so easy to just enjoy it.

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Do you have any daily routines?

I don't have a formal routine since my daughter was born. I did have a daily routine for many years, and I found it extremely helpful and important. It's what makes all the difference.

Starting the day off with a half-hour of meditation, of mindfulness meditation practice, that helps me to bring back these short moments into the day where you feel fully alive and where you appreciate that you're alive and appreciate what's happening to you.

Any other habits you find helpful?

Body posture is a healthy habit that I've come to appreciate through yoga practice. I think it's overlooked how important that is.

One of my colleagues here in Germany does this really interesting research on how body posture influences mood and how closely they're connected. He finds that, just with his analyses of how people walk, he can predict whether they are depressed or not. So the idea is that by influencing your body posture, you could also influence your moods and be less depressed, be happier by just walking upright, sitting upright and having your head in a balanced and erect position and moving in a smooth and relaxed way. I think that research is going to discover more of this mind-body connection.

Breath is also so important. Deep breathing is kind of obvious physiologically, but your brain needs oxygen. Your entire body needs oxygen. But it's so easy to miss the deep breaths and to breathe in a very shallow way. And I think that we can be much healthier and happier and sleep better by just monitoring the way we're breathing and the way we're sitting and walking.

What would you recommend for people who are interested in mindfulness meditation but aren’t sure where to start?

What is really good is the Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) course that was developed by Jon Kabat-Zinn. It is taught all over the world. It's an eight-week course that teaches you the basics that get you started with the practice.

What benefits have you seen people gain from mindfulness practice?

It's surprising how much it can give to people. I love these little moments that people experience during the MBSR course, when they come back to class and say, "Last week I had this moment, this experience. I was just standing at the bus stop and I was realizing for the first time in my life how beautiful it is just to be. Just the fact that I don't have to always do something. How beautiful is it to stand there and just be?"

People can experience getting out of this constant mode of doing that we're typically in, where we're going down our to-do list. From morning to evening, we're busy thinking about what to do next and what's the most important thing to do next and how am I going to do the shopping, et cetera.

We're constantly postponing our life. That's a feeling that I have a lot. I go through the day thinking that I only need to get the next thing done and then I'll be happy. I've recently been in a supermarket, catching myself thinking, “Okay, let me just quickly rush through the supermarket and get my shopping done as quickly as possible, because then I'm going to be at home and then I'm going to be happy.”

I stopped myself in the supermarket and was like, “What am I doing?” I'm constantly postponing my happiness. I'm constantly postponing the joy of my life, where it's so easy to just do my shopping in happiness -- just doing happy shopping. It's not that everything needs to be rushed through.

We can do exactly the same thing that we're doing during a day, but doing it with a different feeling and a different attitude towards it. And it will make the day different, totally. This is what people report when they come back to class and have been practicing the mindfulness practices. They have these brief moments of realization of: Oh my God, this is life. It's happening. We always feel like it's going to be happening next, after we've done the one task that's left to do before happiness.

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Let me ask about some of your recent research. You and colleagues examined older experienced practitioners of yoga and meditation and found that these practices positively correlate with fluid intelligence. What is fluid intelligence?

We differentiate between fluid and crystallized intelligence. Crystallized intelligence is the knowledge that you have accumulated over your lifetime, the hard facts that you know about things, whereas fluid intelligence is the sort of intelligence that you need to do things in a creative and productive way -- reasoning, problem-solving.

While crystallized intelligence is something that gets bigger with age, because you learn more hard facts, your fluid intelligence declines with age. The processing speed of your brain is just not the same as you age. You just get slower with problem-solving.

The idea is that meditation and yoga might help and protect or maintain these sorts of fluid intelligence capabilities.

This is a preliminary study. It's not a longitudinal study, which you would really need to confirm that. I hope that future researchers will be doing that. You would need to test older people as they begin a meditation and yoga practice if you wanted to find out the causality of the practice on intelligence.

Another paper of yours from 2014 focused on ‘equanimity’ as a measurable outcome of meditation. Can you explain?

The paper said that equanimity is a variable that meditation researchers might want to consider more.

Equanimity is understood as part of the concept of mindfulness. Mindfulness is typically defined as a way of paying attention to experiences in the present moment in a way that is nonjudgmental and open to the experience. That's really equanimity.

Experiencing things equanimously means bringing an equal attention, an equal deep caring to whatever you're encountering, whether it's pleasant or unpleasant. People often mistake it to be similar to not caring. It's really exactly the opposite. It's a way of bringing deep care to whatever you're doing but not being attached to the outcome.

The paper suggests that we could tease meditation and equanimity apart even more and see what effect equanimity as a variable plays exactly in mediating the beneficial effects of mindfulness on well-being and on life in general.

This is what I think is most important to do in your work and career life -- doing everything you can with as much love and care as you can, while at the same time not being dependent on positive outcomes. I think this is really the core thing to keep in mind in terms of work and career.

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Have you discovered any lessons about building lasting relationships through your mindfulness work?

One thing that I have discovered only within the last year -- and it was the best discovery, I would say, of the last year -- is a type of dialogue that I've had with my partner. It's a German word, but what it means is something like a mindful dialogue that you have between the two of you.

It has been so powerful for us. It has really made a big, big difference to our relationship.

It's a formal practice where you set aside an hour and a half each week, on a regular day of the week, that you take just for talking. It sounds like not much time, but it's actually so much more than you usually take with your partner to sit down and talk.

There are rules, the way you talk with each other is in a very specific way. You're really listening openly and mindfully to what the other person has to say without interrupting. Each person just talks about himself or herself, openly and really from deep within, talking about what moves him or her during that time. How am I feeling? How am I feeling about the relationship or about life in general? The other person does not interrupt and does not contradict or say, “No, that's not true.”

The person who wrote it, Michael Lukas Moeller, is not alive anymore. It's a 10 or 20-year-old practice that he developed. I think something that's very similar to it is what they call the "Insight Dialogue." That's a really interesting book too, by Gregory Kramer.

Have you changed your mind about any big issues in the course of your life?

I have changed my mind about goals and expectations. When I was younger, I was convinced that it's important to know what you want and that knowing what you want really leads to success. I've changed my mind about that quite a bit. I think knowing what you want can really also be very harmful when we are not able to let go in the presence of things that are not working out the way we want.

We can make our lives really difficult by having expectations. That's a big point in relationships, in a career or whatever. We are often making ourselves unhappy by attaching ourselves to a certain outcome. We think, “we must have that,” but we're missing a lot of other things that are happening on the way.

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What are some books that have had a profound impact on you?

There are so many. What I've used a lot for my work, and I really like it a lot, is Jon Kabat-Zinn's "Full Catastrophe Living." That describes mindfulness practice in a very clear way and [makes it] easy to take up a practice yourself.

I really like a type of ancient Asian Indian philosophy that's called Advaita Vedanta. It's a teaching about non-duality, about self and selflessness. What it says is that you're not separate from the rest of your environment. We take ourselves to be these separate identities or personalities that go through life, doing our own little lives, and we often feel disconnected from the world, from the rest of humanity.

This teaching says that we're not. In our core essence, we're not separated from the rest, we're all connected. That's a teaching that has had a very big impact on my life and on my understanding of myself, and I think really on my happiness.

When we walk through the world with a feeling that we're not different, we're really connected, we're living in this really super-interconnected world where we all have influences on each other, that just makes us so much happier.

Is there any recent research that you weren’t involved with personally but that you find particularly fascinating?

Something that I cite a lot is a study by Killingsworth and Gilbert from Harvard University, but it’s a few years old. Their research looked at mind-wandering and awareness of what's going on in the present moment. They did experience sampling, asking people, "Where is your mind right now?" and then looked at whether people are in the present moment or they're daydreaming, often thinking about the future or the past. Then at the same time, they looked at, how happy are you right now? What they found is that the more present people are to the present moment, the happier they are.

You’ve taken multiple trips to India to study yoga and meditation. What is different about how these are practiced in India that our readers might learn from?

It's very, very different. First of all, the yoga ashrams there don't dedicate a whole lot of time to the physical Asana practice [i.e., the postures typically associated with yoga in the United States]. That is being practiced in some places, but it doesn't take up a lot of time.

What mostly takes up the time is doing selfless work. You work in the garden or you do dishes or prepare the food, or you’re helping people in the rural areas around the ashram. This is what a lot of the time and energy is dedicated to in the ashram. That's all being done with an internal attitude of moving beyond yourself, your personality or your ego, and letting go of those attachments and just doing things with presence and with the intention of letting go.

The physical practice can be really similar to what's being practiced in the West. But the meditation component is definitely much stronger in the ashrams in India. You'll always have something like a philosophy class or you'll hear talks about the ancient philosophies while you're staying in the ashrams.

Is there any scientific research that runs counter to what you have been finding? Anything that suggests that mindfulness is not as helpful for everyone?

Yes. We're experiencing what's very typical for a new research field, that findings are mostly positive because people are excited about mindfulness. A lot of the meditation researchers are also meditation practitioners themselves.

It's easy to find the things that are good when we look at it with this bias that we have. This is what's happening right now. And I don’t think this is going to hold up, because what we see is, as studies are being replicated, not all of the positive effects are being replicated. I think there is going to be more research that shows that it doesn't always have these positive effects. For some people it might just not be so positive.

Also, it's not so clear yet what parts of the brain are really being changed. With neuroscience it's so easy to find positive changes in the brain if you want to find them. That's a really big problem in neuroscience; you can really find anything you want to find.

What's needed now is really rigorous and methodically well-designed studies that very critically test and replicate the findings that we have right now. I think that's what is going to come in the next years.

But still, what you see is it does make huge difference in a lot of people's lives. I think that's also obvious. It's just not understood exactly how and to whom and when.

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